Getting a Girl: The Girl's Mind

Ok here are obviously two schools of thought:

The wuss-way
Contrary to what amorous males may believe, the female mind is not all about sex. Indeed, her ideals about sex and love are often closely integrated.

The following points may apply to women you may meet (though not all women will apply):

She is loyal to her friends. Her friends may also be her enemies.
She loves her family, and will do her best to take care of them.
She will have a wide variety of interests. Some of them she may well share with you.
Appeal to her desire for affiliation. Also, a woman's life changes significantly when she has children. Realize, that even though they may be half of you, it is not all about you.

Many mental and emotional disturbances affect women more and differently than men.

Women do not like to be hurt. Their response is more to flight than to fight. So if you are ever tempted to abuse a woman, don't be surprised if she doesn't leave and wants to stay with you. She may be very loyal towards you, and will be most likely to care about the relationship first and foremost.

She will often want to talk more than you can stand. Make sure you listen and understand, and give her the opportunity to speak up on things and people that matter to her. This will require a lot of time and space, as will dealing with her feelings.

Second thought - The emotional way
Ok the first part was, what you should follow, if you try to win one special woman over time and if you want to invite a lot of frustration, time, money and pain. If you dated a few woman with a specific goal in mind (and she knew it...) or did a lot of blind-dates you will have come to the conclusion to think of some girls as bitches. They simply don't deserve your pity or understanding unless you get involved with one! Women tend to be a lot more rude on the emotional level. Some take a lot of gifts, just to say thanks and bye.

Any woman may or may not sleep with you after one date. Any woman may cheat on you, no matter if she was table dancer when you met her, or a virgin schoolgirl (hey, there are virgin schoolgirls aged 20 so no point to wonder!). It's all about momentary emotions, the power of feelings and what inhibits all that.

Consider a girl's mind to have only one primary one-dimensional range of states: feeling good and feeling bad. This simplifies things a lot, and unless you don't understand all the minute details on how to pull her into feeling good it's fine. Then there are a lot of other states that are like dimmed lamps with infinite states between off and on. These are for example comfortable, romantic, uneasiness, relaxation, tension and horny.

Now a little excuse. Any man has tried to satisfy himself at least once in his life. For humans this is easy. A little purely mechanic, monotone stimulation will suffice. For dogs, it isn't that easy. If you want a dog's sperm (as a veterinary for example) you need a very different approach. You might be able to get a dog's penis erected (they even have a bone there!!), but you'll never get what you want the same way. You need a few different movements, the last being to drag the penis to the complete opposite direction (looks painful if you first see it!), and only then he ejaculates.

Ok, first, please forgive me to compare handling a girl's mind with jerking off a dog. The principle is the same. You want to get a girl feel horny / greedy for love. The primary way to get there is by talking about sex in a special way (not the porn-like way!). However you can't do that from the first moment on or it's GAME OVER. First she needs to feel comfortable, then she needs to feel understand by you, and only then she will feel guilty to object to being driven gently into the direction she first didn't want. Please don't take this as thought control or mind bending. It isn't. It's the way people do it all the time. It's almost the only way to win a woman, though you do it un-conciously and don't really know what works here. But if you know how it works, you can optimize the process and maybe you will be able to get it down in half an hour!

It's perfectly ok for a woman to feel totally taken off her feet. Even those who say it isn't. All is a matter of feelings, for a woman. She may even lay you just because she has these romantic feelings paired with a good deal of horniness, no matter what she says is her attitude. On the other hand some woman try to keep her feelings out of casual sex. For those men, who know the few simple basic principles of suggestion/emotions/love, this is no problem. They simply act like she is in love. If her romantic and sensual feelings because of your touch, your voice, whatever, are strong, and you seem to care al lot for her during the sex, she won't be able to let go that easy. Great Sex is per-se a stronger entry point to a person's heart, no matter what gender. You can't really avoid falling in love when you think about having sex with him every second you're mind is not busy with something else. Never take a woman seriously that denies this! But don't tell her, just look comfortable with the situation.

Sloppy Seconds
If you know a girl who has a boyfriend, good! Then you can play the 'friend' role. As we all know, most (and by most, I mean almost every) relationships don't last over 6 months. Over that course of time, be her friend. Get to know her. But DON'T put the moves on. Tell her that her boyfriend is a nice guy. It's all good.

Until of course, they break up. When this happens, it's time to take her into your arms and tell her not to care about man XYZ, he's an asshole. More often than not, the emotional vulnerability coupled with her desire to get back at her boyfriend (and what better way to do that to have her boyfriend see her with another guy!) will land you a spot sooner than you may think.

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